If we want to have grown man style, we need to stop acting like Mean Girls

The other day before I went to work, this post (by a not-insignificant blogger about another not-insignificant blogger) hit my dash (tagged #Full Retarded).  Then the esteemed Nice Try Bro chimed in with the thoughtful comment, 

If I met someone and it came out that he was friends with Mr. Dan, I’d immediately know we ourselves could not be friends.

And the entire blogosphere wept.  Or at least they should have.  Because this is it guys, this is the level of discourse we’ve been reduced to.

And it’s just terrible, especially because “Grown Man Style” seems to be the buzzword of late.  Leaving aside whether or not the outfit is good, which is immaterial here, this is not the kind of “critique” (which I use in the loosest possible terms) that should be coming from grown men.

“Grown man style” doesn’t start by getting rid of your boot cut jeans and buying OCBD’s and Desert Boots.  And it doesn’t start when you start a blog to catalog and share your inspiration for dressing like a grown up.  It starts with a desire to be a grown up.  And you know what?  Grown men are better than this. 

Grown men don’t take catty shots at other grown men, even if they don’t like their style.

Grown men are fully capable of being friends with other grown men who have different style, or no style at all.

Most importantly grown men have more important things to say about style than “LOL” or “Full Retarded” or “He’s dressed so far out of my imagined appropriateness of male style that I can’t be friends with his friends.”  

Grown men have more tact than that.   Grown men don’t “LOLOLOLOL” at other grown men.  You know who does?

High school girls.

This bullshit is straight out of Mean Girls.  It’s asinine “burn-bookery” that has no business on any blog that professes to believe in “Grown Man Style.”  You may like my style, you may not.  You may think Dan T is an idiot who wears a 3-piece with a henley (which, in all honesty, would probably look better than what 95% of guys are wearing to expensive clubs) or you may not.  But unless you have some actual critique beyond “LOL” and “I couldn’t be friends with his friends”, leave the style blogging to the grown men, and go back to your catty friends in high school.

*Drops mic, walks out this bitch*

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  1. simonscloset said: THANK YOU
  2. girouxmcisaak said: I’ve been tossing around this thought for a while. A lot of people don’t just critique and learn from other people’s “mistakes”, but are really mean about it. Be a grown up by being a nice person.
  3. m0ym0y said: if it’s one thing i learned, doods are ridiculously catty when it comes social media, follow/unfollow, when to follow, ratio of follows vs. following, bow tie no bow tie, beers, no beers
  4. eightinhand said: Phrases like “grown man style,” “dressing like a grownup,” and so many of the associated gentlemanly pretensions on men’s style blogs do not bear any relation to virtuous behavior. Sad but true.
  5. storagegeek said: I think this sort of attitude can really be applied to all things blogging and well..all parts of life in my humble opinion.
  6. jordanthefrightener said: we should also ban the word “swag” to describe yourself. its okay in song lyrics and talking about something else, not to brag about yourself
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